Gone with her Thoughts: Did I Just Become an Adult?

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Gone with her Thoughts: Did I Just Become an Adult?

So I think I’ve finally grown up.

How do I know this?

Well, the last year or so I started noticing a Thing. The Thing was that after finishing YA books I realized that I never saw myself as the characters anymore. See, before, I would always find something that would put me in the story, make me feel like I was going through it. Now though… now I read about these characters and read their stories.

And it’s not a bad thing! Not by a long shot. It just made me realize that I’ve changed. I think I’ve grown up. I’ve finally passed through that magical door labeled “Adult.” I’m not saying I’m a completely different person than I was a year ago, but my way of thinking about some things has certainly shifted. And I think I know what that change was…

My daughter is growing up. She’s now 13 and I’m now in my 30s, and with that comes a whole different world for both of us. I’ve had to change parenting styles a bit and I’ve become a more serious parent because to be honest, her becoming a teenager scares the shit out of me.

She’s no longer my baby girl, she’s a young lady. But she’s not a typical young lady. She’s not into things most girls are into. She lives for Mangas and fills up notebooks with ones she’s writing/drawing. She loves everything Japanese. She loves Animes. She hates One Direction and make-up and fixing her hair. I love her so much. I love her individuality and I know it comes at a high cost in middle school because most girls are into things she hates, but it will payoff in the end.

So with my daughter growing up, those YA stories have become less about me and more about her. But I’m kind of grateful for that. I feel like it helps me relate more, to be reminded of how it is and how it can be. I hope one day she’ll want me to share these books with her and I hope she sees herself in them, in one way or another.


As for me, I’ll just keep reading and growing too.


Have you gone through something similar?
How have your reading views changed over the years?


Jess @ Gone with the Words

19 Responses to “Gone with her Thoughts: Did I Just Become an Adult?”

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    I know what you mean! I still love YA books, but I dont feel as personally involved in them anymore. I especially notice it when I read posts by younger bloggers about the crushes they have on teenage boys in books! I love the gifs in this post! <3 Bee @ Bee Reads Books

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    I do think that I see YA a lot different than a teenager reading the book. I tend to think that the main character is over dramatic or that insta love is unnecessary, but then thinking back on what it was like being a teen, we were over dramatic and thought we were in love easily.
    Missie @ A Flurry of Ponderings

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    I still feel I can identify with most YA characters (not the one with all the teenage drama, love-triangles and insta-love though) and I guess it’s because I still feel younger than my age. It must be an interesting switch to suddenly see the books through another perspective :D

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    Oh yeah. I feel you on this. Having kids will change your perspective on everything, especially as they get older. And they certainly can make you feel old! But just hang on to that notion that just because they grow up doesn’t mean you have to too. ;)

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    Amber Elise

    Awww your daughter sounds like in my teenage years!

    I haven’t related to YA characters is quite some time. When I was in middle school, I know that’s what got me interested in the genre, but as I get older I find myself appreciating the genre for it’s creativity moreso than the reliability of the characters.

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    Kel @ Booked til Tuesday

    No kids, but I think I get what you mean. I still enjoy YA (particularly fantasy), but I have noticed myself thinking more characters are kind of…young, or juvenile. Getting old. :(

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    I think I understand what you are saying. I don’t necessarily see myself personally in the stories anymore . . . well, most of them anyway. But I still love to read YA. :) With most of the books I read though, I can still find at least one thing that lets me relate to the main character.

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    It is shocking when you realize you’re a grown up. Those darn kids grow up so fast before you know it she’ll be a grown up and you’ll be saying “wtf?”

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